ME, MYSELF AND I: FINDING PEACE IN BEING ALONE
Just to let you all know this was my first blog post I wrote back in January 2016. I am sharing this with you as I start my new beginning and to bring my journey full circle. Hope you all enjoy and anticipate what the future has in store.
Finding “the one” and falling in love is one of the ultimate goals in life for most women, or at least that is what society tells us. We are constantly bombarded with love playbooks on how to snag the perfect man, commercials for dating sites guaranteed to find you a mate, and the unrelenting questions from relatives about who we are dating, why we aren’t dating, and when are we going to settle down. (My aunt told me she had some eligible suitors for me if I don’t have a boyfriend by the spring.
My friends used to love teasing me about being a serial monogamist, someone who is constantly in a relationship, and when I reflected on my love life, I realized they were right. I’d been in two serious relationships back to back with about a month break in between from when I broke up with my high school sweetheart and started seeing my college boo. Back then, I thought that was enough time to get over my first love and get into a relationship with my friend, who I wanted to be “more than friends” with. Reflecting on it now, that was one of the most asinine mistakes I could have ever made. Not only did I bring over some of the issues that I had in my previous relationship, I lost an amazing friend and didn’t allot myself time for self-discovery. The person I was at 17 when I got into my first relationship was not the person I was at 22 when I got into the relationship with boyfriend number 2. Needless to say, my relationship was doomed from the start and after 2 ½ years, my college connection had run its course.
Currently being single for the past year and a half has been interesting to say the least. I’m a hopeless romantic, and living in a fast-paced area, such as South Florida, makes dating a constant struggle. You meet a man at a mixer or an event, get their number and think you all have hit it off, and then a few days later buddy is Casper 2.0.